I told his dad about that. Incidentally, Paula and I have volumes of stories to swap, and it is interesting to see just how similar they are. The culmination of many events in our lives brought us to the decision that we have made to move. Linda Murphrey. And now that Ive had a chance to step back and take a look at it from a distance, to think that I was sucked up in that really scares me. The wickedness, the heartbreak, the ruining of lives. Examples from First Baptist take in everything: pedophilia, violence, defamation of the innocent to protect the guilty, heresies against Christian doctrine, defiance against lawful authority. And even to our adult years, he owned us. Ive never been able to say the c-wordand anyone from the church who reads this will take great offensebut thats what it was like.. We can see men, but we cant see the Lord except through faith, and the preacher who is not walking by faith in Gods Word will be a man pleaser. I about laughed in his face. Lowest rating: 1 . Why he lies about that I will never know. I grieve for them.. Traffic guards directed cars into a gravel parking lot. My older brother became another version of my father. Yet, you have failed with the most precious gifts God could have ever given you your wife, your children, and now, your ministry. But, of course, I'm not telling you anything you don't already know. This story has been revised to reflect the following: Correction on 12.11.12: The print version of this story, appearing in the January 2013 issue of Chicago, incorrectly stated that former First Baptist Church member Julie Silvestrone Busby received marriage counseling from Schaap in 2004 and 2009. Evaluate 3 (13395 Ratings) Top rated: 3 . Linda Hyles-Murphrey photos, including production stills, premiere photos and other event photos, publicity photos, behind-the-scenes, and more. Treated her terribly. In June 1991, a Sunday school teacher accused A. V. Ballenger, a 57-year-old deacon who had spent two decades in the church, of fondling a seven-year-old girl. Treated her terribly. Another person who is keenly aware of the lure and peril of personality is Murphrey. Breaking Free: Linda Hyles Murphrey Speaks At TEDxOjaiChange | Stuff Fundies Like Current Events, People Breaking Free: Linda Hyles Murphrey Speaks At TEDxOjaiChange August 6, 2012 Darrell 594 Comments Persnickety Polecat August 10, 2012 at 4:48 pm Ah, I see. His dads philosophy is if I didnt see it I dont believe it. . While Schaap was from a more prosperous family, in all important ways he was a virtual Hyles clone. Its not even a valid comparison.. They also corrected a previous repo in graphic detail, recalls Tom Brennan, who attended the church for six years and is now an Independent Baptist pastor at Maplewood Bible Baptist Church in Chicago. In her first one-on-one interview about the church, Hyles's middle daughter, Linda Murphrey, a motivational speaker and coach in Southern California, remembers his followers as "zombies" who. For a pastor to develop a romantic relationship with a church member is gross, gross abuse of his position and of his solemn marital vows. My father tried desperately to cover it up. The stick was displeasing God, a message hammered home virtually every Sunday. 2012-2022 Way of Life Literature Inc. v12.19.22, David Cloud, Way of Life Literature, P.O. The year was 1985. Voyle Glover, an attorney and longtime church member, was not among the defenders. The sermon was called The Polished Shaft, and in the many times that Jack Schaap, pastor of the First Baptist Church of Hammond, had delivered it, it was the kind of showstopper that made him a rock star to his flock. I attended at least 12 Pastors Schools. How I emerged from such a pit of secret sin, manipulation, and hypocrisy with the slightest interest in my professed religion at all, I do not know. Instead, she continues, he was allowed and encouraged to perpetuate what my father began: idolatry, secrecy, adultery, and a harshly punitive culture based on an endless list of legalistic rules that served the man of God. Not Godor at least not a God that I would want to know.. One night, Jack Hyles sat three of his four children down the eldest was away at college and told them he had to leave the home "because of the way your mom is acting," Murphrey recalled. He got five years in prison. Its important to stress that even the people I spoke with who felt victimized by the church did not suggest that the majority of members are anything other than sincere seekers of Christ. He also had a nasty, nasty temper. It's a TED Talk by Linda Murphrey. Much of our material is available for free, such as the hundreds of articles at the Way of Life web site. Nischik twice tried to present the matter before the deacons of First Baptist, but he was shut down. And the night we got married, he told everybody it was our first kiss! After his first sermon in 1947, Elijah blushed and Heavens flag flew at half mast for three days, he lamented in a 1975 Time magazine article. PacifistAg. And the night we got married, he told everybody it was our first kiss! until the child is crying, not tears of anger but tears of a broken will. They should leave stripes if need be. This is a truly sad case. And, says Kaifetz, he got a heros welcome. Then, she makes claim for Linda to claim Linda was abused is a self-centered cry for attention and demeaning to those who were actually abused. 594 thoughts on "Breaking Free: Linda Hyles Murphrey Speaks At TEDxOjaiChange" When Nischik confronted Hyles in 1985 and demanded that he leave his wife alone, she filed for divorce at Hyles insistence. It was simple, but daunting, and that was to keep all the secrets, and there were so many. The year was 1985. Linda Hyles Murphrey on the cult her father created. I would just sit there, and he would say, My son David and Paula never single dated, and I would look at David and start laughing and think, This is hilarious; I cant believe that he gets up and says this. His dad gave me six months of sex counseling before David and I got married, and I could nail him just with that and what he said to me. He left everything to the organization, which my younger sister and her husband now lead. These were passionate love notes from Jack Hyles to Jennie, all signed Your aching guy, Jack! They expressed undying love, telling Jennie that she was the only woman he loved. I dont care how controlling Jack Schaap was. Thats why people just fell all over each other to exalt [Hyles]., The level of devotionand controlsometimes strayed into the absurd. And even turned his own children against their mother. Meanwhile, the churchs lawyer, David Gibbs, has called for other victims to come forward with their stories. But neither did he dwell on compassion. I dont know if there is right now. But I wondered: If my dad had been taken off his self-constructed throne long ago and people had known the full truth about who he was, perhaps Jack Schaap would never have been given the liberties, the complete lack of accountability, and the power that eventually led to his own demise. 700 Children's Drive. A strategic and highly accomplished executive with vast expertise in brand management, business development, digital transformation, P&L management, and relationship management. In an incredibly short amount of time I have healed much and think I would surprise even you with the strength I have gained. That reknown enabled Hyles to begin crisscrossing the country as the de facto leader of a loose coalition of Independent Fundamentalist Baptist churches. In his 1979 book How to Rear Infants, he wrote: The parent who spanks his child keeps him from going to hell.. He pastored a church in Texas and was found to be having affairs with 14 different women. Our primary goal with the FBIS is to provide material to assist preachers in the edification and protection of the churches. Yet, you have failed with the most precious gifts God could have ever given you your wife, your children, and now, your ministry. Hyles, meanwhile, exerted extreme control over every aspect of his flocks livescontrol that members say they welcomed because they believed it was divinely inspired. Ross points to a landmark 1981 Harvard study on cult formation, which suggests that all cults, destructive or not, share three elements: an According to a blog called Fallen in Grace, written by someone identifying himself as David Hyles: I have no intention of defending myself. Hyles eventually abandoned the churchs Southern Baptist theology, saying it was too liberal. Eddie Lapina, a Hyles-trained church fixture, is acting as interim pastor while a committee searches for Schaaps replacement. Whispers began that he was having an affair with the daughter of a high-level administrator at Hyles-Anderson College. helped salvage what was left of my self-respect. As with most of his sermons at the northwest Indiana megachurchthe 14th largest in the country and the biggest Independent Baptist house of worship in the nationthe message struck as bluntly as a pounded nail: Submit to Gods plan for your life or be snapped like a twig and flung away (as Schaap would demonstrate by cracking a stick over his head, tossing it aside, and barking, Next!). Sincerely,(Signed Judy Johnson). The answer is definitely yes and there are a hundred people who know that. ________________There was definitely a door between their offices [Jack Hyles and Jenny Nischiks offices]. Other items we sell to help fund our very expensive literature, video, and foreign church planting ministry. In passing, it is interesting to note that Hyles evidence against Vic is loose, unsubstantiated, secondhand, hearsay gossip from unnamed sources (Robert Sumner. Money poured into the church in other ways: the tithes collected each Sunday, a book-publishing arm, and various conferences and seminars. Abused her. You are welcome to make copies of these at your own expense and share them with friends and family. He told us she was crazy. Instead, the silence was golden, and it still is. Why he lies about that I will never know. David was a blatant liar. I was one of those chocago kids who rode the bus to church went to the church camp and youth camp went to all the church funtions and went to the highschool not once did anything inappropriate happen! This was not merely a simple local church issue. But those who have left, the followers who have tried to leave, the outsiders, even the media (it was on. People lined up to give cash to him and his only son, David, who was following in his footsteps. What I cant comprehend is telling a lie that so many people know is a lie. In a scene right out of some cheap romance novel, Hyles arranged for Vic Nischik to sleep in the basement of his own house and to pay rent to Jennie. Linda Murphrey, one of his daughters, recently told the Post-Tribune that she was 2 years old when her family moved from Texas to Indiana. The items have taken years to produce at enormous expense in time and money, and we use the income from sales to help fund the ministry. 25 The fear of man bringeth a snare: but whoso putteth his trust in the Lord shall be safe. By this letter I wish to express my thoughts on the role you have played in these events over the past fifteen-plus years. Among the accusations was a systematic culture of cover-up: [Jack Hyles] negligently and carelessly has fostered . I am reminded of the lessons of Proverbs 29:24-27 --, Whoso is partner with a thief hateth his own soul: he heareth cursing, and bewrayeth it not. Update information for Linda Hyles-Murphrey More at IMDbPro Contact Info: View agent, publicist, legal on IMDbPro Biography Awards Photo Gallery Filmography Trailers and Videos Hide all | | Edit We dont love anyone as much as you! Then he would call us Poopsy-Woopsy and give us pizza and money., To go off campus to buy pantyhoserequired wear for womenwe needed a special pass, Busby says, and had to have three chaperones. You may have convinced your following in the past twenty years that 'it did not happen if they did not see it,' but God has seen every moment of those years, and my faith will not let [me] believe that He will let you go unpunished. In passing, it is interesting to note that Hyles evidence against Vic is loose, unsubstantiated, secondhand, hearsay gossip from unnamed sources (Robert Sumner, The Jack Hyles Story, chapter 5: The Hyles Reply). Nischik twice tried to present the matter before the deacons of First Baptist, but he was shut down. But yes, there is most definitely a door. When the word of God wasnt enough to entice kids into the buses, recruiters plied them with ice cream, goldfish, pony rides. View the profiles of people named Linda Murphrey. Theres a world of difference between a cult of personality and a cult. Hes never said that he loved Mrs. Hyles. Nischiks letter, which he later publicized, said in part,MY HOME WAS TAMPERED WITH AND MY MARRIAGE DELIBERATELY WRECKED BY JACK HYLES. A seemingly endless list of rulesboth written and unwrittengrew and multiplied. Either by her own choosing or by inability or by unreasonableness, she never did meet those expectations. These are not sharable. Subscribe to one or more of our free e-mail newsletters to get instant updates on local news, events, and opportunities in Chicago. The pastor continued in this vein at some length, proving himself adept at building straw men, creating smoke screens, and straining at gnats. There is a gross lack of spiritual discernment at play here. Theyre being shamed about how horrible they are. I mean when I was dating David, the books that Hyles has written on teenagers and dating, we never did one thing that he taught. Her office had a door opening to Hyles' office, but there was a drape in front of it so that no one coming into her office could see it. These are not sharable. And at the end, awash in an old-time hymn, hundreds of them, expressions blank, unhesitatingly made their way to the front of the church. Perhaps the saddest of all her statements was that the rest of her family will not likely admit that they were wrong. He promises that there will be no cover-up. What was it that you used to say, 'Little leopards have spots because big leopards have spots'? There were references to secret meetings with him in different places (Nischik. Here are just eight of the men affiliated with First Baptist Church or educated at Hyles-Andersonmost of them pastorswho scattered around the nation committing crimes. Many people have an attitude of, S. We stayed with the Busbys for a few days, and then moved into a condo project near the school, where many other students were living. The following is excerpted from Linda Murphreys testimony at the TEDxOjaiChange event in Ojai, California, April 5, 2012. But a cult, no. I literally feared for my very life if I ever told what went on in our home, for fear that it would hurt his ministry. And, The labourer is worthy of his reward" (1 Timothy 5:18). Hyles arranged for Jennie Nischik to work as a secretary in an adjoining office in the late 1960s, and she would not allow her husband to touch her by 1971. 594 thoughts on "Breaking Free: Linda Hyles Murphrey Speaks At TEDxOjaiChange" Comment navigation. For over fifteen years I have watched and learned much from the circus that you have performed with the lives of those I love most in the world. Every time we talked he would ask me if we kissed, and I would say yes, and he would ask me real intimate questions about when we kissed and what happened when we kissed. Backed into a corner by a he-goes-or-I-go ultimatum from the administrator, sources say, Hyles arranged for his son to take over as pastor at his old church, Miller Road Baptist in Texas. Dr. Linda Lowes, a physical therapist and researcher specializing in the assessment of neuromuscular dystrophies, is a principal investigator in the Center for Gene Therapy and a research associate professor of Pediatrics at The Ohio State University. I anxiously await the day that I can say with all honesty, "They did the right thing". I emphatically and strongly disagree with those who would assert that the church is a cult, he says. He taught us that to please him we had to keep all the secrets. [As to why the people at First Baptist allowed these things to go on] the only thing I can tell you is that you are so totally brainwashed. No person has perfect knowledge or perfect memory about events that occurred years in the past, and it is always possible to quibble about some detail of someones story, as any court trial would demonstrate. Hes never spoken of her in endearing terms. Facebook gives people the power. When he tried to read a three-page letter, Hyles cried out, You are trying to destroy fundamentalism! and the deacons chimed in by shouting the poor man down. Among the best and brightest of the early studentsa young man who would eventually win the blessing of Jack Hyles to marry his youngest daughter, Cindywas Jack Schaap. These items have taken years to produce at enormous expense in time and money, and we need the income from the sale of these to help fund the ministry. 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