I hope that everything works out in your favor. I don't see what that has to do with anything. 4. A year ago, I could not have written this letter, but it represents much of what was in my heart but could not yet be realized or expressed. To receive a diagnosis of BPD, five of these nine symptoms need to be present (1): Feeling empty, or having low self-esteem. We need help with how he can support me and she is willing to speak to us about what its like for families of BPD. But its not your fault. It was both painful and hopeful to read it. Love, Linda <3. This is an open letter to anyone willing and/or needing to listen. 7. What the person with borderline personality disorder will do is they will make the five calls and immediately attempt a sixth." . You are likely to see this behavior from someone with BPD and unlikely to see it from someone with NPD. She has been diagnosed, but refuses to even acknowledge that half the time (more than half the time) and I have had to take a zero tolerance for any crap in order to protect my family. I want to know that humanity can be beautiful. It will take time and a lot of effort. Juliette Virzi. I'm usually pretty good at keeping my head, and not fighting back, whenever she does this. There is a lot of misconception out there about BPD. Would you mind if I reposted it on my blog (beautyandtheborderline.wordpress.com)? ~ Dave M. Also, during those long recovery periods, she will fixate on a distorted, misremembered and misquoted version of something I'd said during the fight, always distorted to be much harsher than what I actually said, and sometimes completely "fabricated" with no basis in anything I said. The relationship is different, the experiences are different, and the harm caused is different. I also shared this letter with my husband so that maybe he will have a better understanding of what I go through. Thank you so much. You are free to opt out any time or opt in for other cookies to get a better experience. Groups are not for everyone. Children are malleable, they are clay being shaped by their parents and by their experiences. I thank higher powers for not leaving life. Please be aware that this might heavily reduce the functionality and appearance of our site. Over the years after I turned 18, I was treated pretty bad as well by case workers I had and ER nurses and psych nurses because I also had an eating disorder. It can indeed be inspiring to read these stories. I am so sorry that you were treated badly becuase of your diagnosis. Thank you for your heartfelt comment in response to my letter. Thank you for your wonderful comment. Unfortunately, many kids of BPD's become BPD themselves because they learn the thought patterns, behaviors, and unstable feelings as a normal way to be. Needless to say, if you have a loved one with BPD, life can be fraught with crises and conflict. I work from home. It's seriously messed up. Thank you, and may the knowledge you acquire now help you to build a life worth living from here and forward. They have the ability to support the BPD. Thank you for reading this. The following cookies are also needed - You can choose if you want to allow them: You can read about our cookies and privacy settings in detail on our Privacy Policy Page. Tonight tho as she is in the psych ward I feel as tho my world is crashing down around me. It makes a difference for us!! Now I don't know what I am. This website is produced by members of the Sanctuary Support Group. Im still scared youll meet someone now who will offer you and the children everything I cant. I tried to cheer her up and I thought we ended the evening on amiable terms. I truly appreciate what you said. I hope to afford continuing to see my therapist. Why is BPD hard to diagnose and really not curable? I would try to calm him down by reminding him how much I love him and that I won't give up on him. Thank you very much for your perspective. I am aware there is a shift in the middle of this brief description of my experience from talking to people with mental illness, toward talking to those without it. I refuse to believe it. I shouldn't have apologised, and this time I won't. Honestly, I don't think this letter is helpful, or should have been addressed to the children of BPD's for a few reasons. But she arrived the next day with a police office to remove, most, but not all of her remaining stuff. After finally being diagnosed with BPD after hospital stays, hurting multiple people, trying med after med and more. She often tears into me at the slightest provocation (one night a couple of weeks ago, for example, she said she needed some time alone, and locked herself in our bedroom. Maybe there is hope or support out there but i can't figure out how to know who deserves it and who doesnt and if i try think about it i just panic and get nowhere, make things worse, so i was wondering what your thoughts are as this is obviously a subject you have much experience with. My kneejerk concern about the situation sometimes is rejection, but I try to put the feelings she is going through in perspective and just wait. Any suggestions? Why? I could never blame them for not wanting to be around me, but this all left and leaves me with absolutely no support system. Wow is all I can say!!! My family "tolerates" me. I figured it out, but only through trial, error, therapy, a good online support group and a lot of introspection and self-care on my part. This is called dissociation. Thank you. I am co-dependent, which I regard as simply the other side of the coin. But now that i know i have BPD and i know what it means I feel like I will eventually have control over it. I am so glad that this letter can serve as a tool for sharing your journey with family and friends, and that you are able to find some help through my blog. Those 9 criteria and what this letter describes is sadly what i think it is like for someone to live with me. I wish I had read this 6 year's ago. My belief in it is fading. While this is the basic description for BPD, the complexity of this disorder is extreme. Doing a lot of reading keep reading things like don't get bogged down on the details, focus on her emotions, don't get defensive. Click to enable/disable Google Analytics tracking. Can't take their word for anything. She read some of your other posts and she said she could see a lot of similarities between us. My mother does want to help her, but she won't help herself. Having BPD is no picnic, either. As a result, people with BPD frequently experience emotional invalidation that is, others react to their emotions as if those emotions are not valid or reasonable. I would be pleased to sent it to you. I am currently waiting for DBT treatment and your blog and videos help me no end, i use them on a daily basis, like i'm warming up for the marathon which will be my DBT healing, hopefully. Remember that your words, love, and support go a long way in helping your loved one to heal, even if the results are not immediately evident. Ultimately, the borderline creates their biggest fear. These episodes can get farther and fewer between, and we can experience long periods of stability and regulation of our emotions. NAMI Thank you fit writing this letter and for your blog. As you note, they benefit from the mystery around BPD bc they can more easily confuse people, induce sympathy and get people to excuse their abuse etc. It's nice to hear this from a BPD perspective. But I would like to point out that I am not (neither are other people with this disorder) hopeless to date. Your mind, your body, are completely taken over and you end up doing something you regret deeply but have to live with. He said many times that he wanted to show me love and treat me right but he thinks that his selfishness and pride are preventing him to do so. Furthermore, this grandparent generally claims to be perfectly well and claims that there is something wrong with all the rest of us. Thank you so much for your honesty and strength. I've learned how to focus on the important things and how to handle my emotions. We can learn grounding exercises and apply our skills to help during these episodes, and they may become less frequent as we get better. Mind Australia Borderline Personality Disorder Family and Carer Group. He is desperate I know. Offer to visit the doctor with them, spend quality time with them doing something you both enjoy, and tell them you love them. Now, multiply that feeling times ten and that is what a person with BPD considers intense emotion. Caring about someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) tosses you on a roller coaster ride from being loved and lauded to abandoned and bashed. If you make plans, try to keep them, or offer a clear reason why you can't. Make sure you're not blowing hot and cold. I am a non that just recently gave up after 4 years of chaos. I have beeen through 3 years of DBT therapy and figuring out who i am and how i came to have this horrible disorder. Australian BPD Foundation. I have been diagnosed with BPD, Obsessive Compulsive PD, Histrionic PD, Avoidant PD, Dependant PD and Depressive. One of the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder is an intense fear of being abandoned, and we therefore (often unconsciously) sometimes behave in extreme, frantic ways to avoid this from happening. Not easy.When she does decide to get help, and i hope she does. Enough said. You have said all the things I've always wanted to say to the people who are or who have been in my life. Yes I can see that that it is a long difficult road. heartbroken77 Consumer 0 Posts: 12 Joined: Wed Nov 25, 2009 4:23 am Local time: Mon Nov 28, 2022 2:16 am Blog: View Blog (0) That is wonderful. We havent outgrown this. Your lack of emotional control leads you to damage your relationships, leading people to walk away from it, which exacerbates the abandonment issues that are a part of your disorder. I wish you peace. People with BPD may experience just a few or all of these common signs and symptoms: Extreme or unstable emotions. I am sorry I didn't get help. And I know that my reaction to him is so very. Borderlines do not know how to cope with intimacy - it leaves them feeling engulfed. People with BPD have various triggers that can set their symptoms in motion. I hope that your sister receives the help that she needs and that you and your family get the support you deserve as well. Dr. Marsha Linehan, founder of DBT, likens us to 3rd degree emotional burn victims. Open Letter To All With BPD A.J. I accept the consequences of my actions and how they have affected you, I didnt realize then how much it affected me too. People started telling me that I was using my diagnosis as an excuse for my bad behavior. Showing your love and support will make them more willing to see your point of view and help them understand your desire for healthy boundaries. I have only receintly learned of BDP when searching for answers to why my relationship was not able to progress. I have been diagnosed with other things except for this. I was lonely, worried and scared. Now she teaches DBT, has written several books and has a blog called, Previous post: Finding peace amongst the turmoil, An Open Letter to People who do Not have Borderline Personality Disorder from Those of Us who Do, this blog (Healing from BPD by Debbie Corso), Remind yourself that the persons behavior isnt your fault, Tap into your compassion for the persons suffering while understanding that their behavior is probably an intense reaction to that suffering, Do things to take care of YOU. I am sorry for blaming you. A lover, a friend, a parent or sibling, and a coworker all have the privilege of having a frame of reference to place the borderline in. Mahari, a Canadian woman and Life Coach now 52 years old, who recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder 14 years ago writes an open letter to all who have been, as she was at the age of 19, diagnosed with BPD. I've had many pschiatrists and most never mentioned BPD. The one thing I would add is that people with BPD need to recognize that no matter the rationale for their actions, they do hurt people, and hurt people have a right to their feelings as much as people with BPD have a right to their own feelings. Thanks for the letter just helps a little with the clouser that is impossible to get. Initially I thought we just fell out of love and she was unable to deal with that reality (like maybe she needed a larger reason like alcoholism or abuse rather than just drifting apart). You're absolutely right that small paragraph is all that any mother with BPD who has damaged her children not only should say but it's the only thing she has any right to say. There is nothing you can do to fix it. This message is what he's been trying to tell me for the last two years and I've just never understood why he would stay with me when I have my BPD episodes, but this helps me understand. I was diagnosed at around 21 but had it in my records as 'potential' at 16 because of severe depression, suicidal ideation, and self harm. BPD is characterized by rapidly fluctuating moods, an unstable sense of self, impulsiveness, and a lot of fear. You are not the cause of our suffering. She has latched onto a fiction that I was mentally abusive towards her and refuses to co-parent in the interest of our son. Don't think we will ever get back now, gotta give it to her though, she was the only one who understood me. It is inspiring and a ray of light to those of us who have a loved one with BPD to remind us that is just an aspect that can be overcommed to let us live in full the beauty of life. It's hard not to appear defensive when she is asking for explanations as to why I've done things. But I know this is fantasy. The mind is very complex. I had alter egos and they were the fun ones but I was not me anymore. While these cries for help should be taken seriously, we understand that you may experience burn out from worrying about us and the repeated behavior. DBT stories from people around the world recovering from BPD. A certain song, sound, smell, or words can quickly fire off neurological connections that bring us back to a place where we didnt feel safe, and we might respond in the now with a similar reaction (think of military persons who fight in combat a simple backfiring of a car can send them into flashbacks. BPD is also sometimes known as 'emotionally unstable personality disorder', but even that label feels somewhat prejudiced to me. Help your loved one through their BPD. I would have missed my little princess daughter, missed my husband, missed out on my "recovery". My hope is that you will gain new insight into your loved ones condition and grow in compassion and understand for both your loved one AND yourself, as this is not an easy road. I love this person, but the situation can be so hurtful. I am sorry I was selfish. Thanks for writing this. BPD & Emotional Distress: Our choices impact our nervous systems, TIRED OF SELF-SABOTAGING?! But at least we're acknowlodging it and it's *&^$%&$& hard! . Were not saying its right. We can work through this destructive pattern and learn how to be healthier in the context of relationships. BPD Community Victoria. It can be really difficult to know how to cope when someone has emotion dysregulation issues and is incredibly emotionally sensitive. I couldnt talk to you then, and I cant really talk to you now. Note that blocking some types of cookies may impact your experience on our websites and the services we are able to offer. This was very well thought out and appreciated. Hello thank you so much for sharing. This is the most dreaded Dx to come across according to my colleaguesif it was so bad, why would it be my problem? Debbie,This was an amazing letter that you wrote!!! Get hand-picked resources and highlights from our Mighty community straight to your inbox. Princess Diana: The disorder is also prevalent in royal families, and the most charismatic and famous celebrity suffering from it was Princess Diana. Thanks for commenting. In order to make this happen, I had to force my ex to go by order of the family doctor. None. That's fun too.) I believe we could work at our enmeshment together and make this work. It appears you entered an invalid email. Celebrities and Famous People With Borderline Personality Disorder. It will be a long road, but she will need the support of her family. I wish you strength and hope as you do this work, and please always remember to also take care of YOU. I am borderline, but also bipolar, which I take medication for. Oops! Harder than bringing up 4 kids and being away from them for long periods. If it was just a figure of speech, please know that you can make choices to take care of YOU and to prioritize which relationships come first in your world. Not doing anything to make it happenjust wondering why it hasn't. I haven't spoken to him for a week., and he hasn't contacted me. My voice of reason. An open letter from those with BPD Jul 15, 2019 An Open Letter to People who do Not have Borderline Personality Disorder from Those of Us who Do Click here to watch the Video Transcript: Dear Friends, Family Members, Lovers, Ex-lovers, Coworkers, Children, and others of those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder, That is what a fight with a loved one feels like, or how intensely they can feel love for a single person. Just be there for her in the end when she needs you. But working also adds more stressors to an already stressed out life. Thank you so much for this letter. You never know thoughit could end up being really helpful to hear from others who are going through the very same things as you. "I was just a kid whose family were all alcoholics and heroin addicts. It is possible that something that you said or did triggered us. Part of that process is for the parents to submit to therapy as well. I am praying for you, too. These cookies collect information that is used either in aggregate form to help us understand how our website is being used or how effective our marketing campaigns are, or to help us customize our website and application for you in order to enhance your experience. It has resulted in many failed friendships and rejections, one failed relationship, and has damaged my current one (why he has stayed, I don't really know). . The reason being, that it is common knowledge for those with mental illness to understand how damaging social stigma can be, but I believe it is just as damaging to read numerous success stories about people who have suffered themselves. They are conditioned to see the behavior as normal and often times they are terrorized by the behavior. I was petrified of losing you; the intensity of my emotions, the world and the endless possibilities absolutely petrified me. Not all of the situations I described apply to all people with Borderline Personality Disorder. She feels fully justified in treating my mother with all sorts of nasty abusive language and accusations. Click to enable/disable _ga - Google Analytics Cookie. September 14, 2018, 3:53 PM. I want to point out that you have a lot of clarity and insight into what's been happening for you and your desired boundaries around your family. I have read through a lot of your blog and so much of it sounds like me. Harder than playing the guitar to 3000 people. I hope we can be friends in time and partners in raising our son. Click to enable/disable _gat_* - Google Analytics Cookie. But you say it is possible to recover to heal have hope and a normal life. You don't understand me. -JB. Impulsive behavior is a primary symptom of BPD. The letter and all the post did help me a little tonight tho. My sister has borderline personality disorder and yes, I am separating myself from her because of the years of abuse directed to me and my family. This situation has been devastating because we were planning to get married and I wanted nothing more than that but her unwillingness to even realize that there could be something and act is what made me left, also because I was already showing signs of burn out such as anxiety, insomnia and depression that led me to my own therapy. The following are trademarks of NAMI: NAMI, NAMI Basics, NAMI Connection, NAMI Ending the Silence, NAMI FaithNet, NAMI Family & Friends, NAMI Family Support Group, NAMI Family-to-Family, NAMI Grading the States, NAMI Hearts & Minds, NAMI Homefront, NAMI HelpLine, NAMI In Our Own Voice, NAMI On Campus, NAMI Parents & Teachers as Allies, NAMI Peer-to-Peer, NAMI Provider, NAMI Smarts for Advocacy, Act4MentalHealth, Vote4MentalHealth, NAMIWalks and National Alliance on Mental Illness. We fully respect if you want to refuse cookies but to avoid asking you again and again kindly allow us to store a cookie for that. Madeline Richardson. The mood swings experienced by people with BPD can lead to issues with impulsive behavior and can contribute to relationship problems. I know that my new wife and family would appreciate it as well. I am sorry you had to grow up too soon. I'm so proud of him that he agreed very graciously to attend and learn these skills. People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) struggle to understand how wives, husbands, friends, and other family members experience their intense reactions, mood swings, and risky behavior. I have passed it on to my family and friends who support me. All in all today I am successfull in all that I set my mind on to do. One moment you might feel as though you love. i haven't figured out what i think about BPD.. i've been diagnosed with it several times and as a result the system has treated me TERRIBLY. Thank you, and best wishes for the future. He will say that he knows that I love him but he isn't sure if he loves me and that he might be the one who'll give up. Not what i wanted but almost lost all since of myself. Huge hugs! This is called splitting, and its part of the disorder. We may jump from one friend to another, going from loving and idolizing them to despising them deleting them from our cell phones and unfriending them on Facebook. My wife says she is learning a lot but she is still barking orders and yelling and telling me I am not doing things right on her behalf. However, looking back, all the signs were there, but I just didn't see them. Early on in our diagnosis and before really digging in deep with DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), we dont have the proper tools to tell you this or ask for your support in healthy ways. I need frequent reminders of this, because if I dont it feels like I will lose faith in humanity completely, and that will shatter every belief I have ever held dear. She struggles with accepting herself and most of all loving herself which in turn hinders her from being healthy both mentally and physically. And they can have somthing themselvesand lie to themselves. I handle things differently thru all the therapy and med changesI still wish it to go away..since now have Bipolar tendencies and PTSD isn't this all pretty much the same stuff and the rollercoaster is ongoing? and "WE" your partners love you, even if today, this week, this month, this year, you hate "US"! Whatever. You *can* overcome this disorder! Very occasionally, though (It just happened three nights ago for the 4th time in our 15-month relationship), I'll lose my own head and say some terse and unfair things. There are nine possible criteria for diagnosing BPD, but an individual only needs to . ive been through the same, she knows she has it but cant have anyone know, she cant have people think shes not perfect and happy. Another thing you may have noticed is that spaced out look on our faces. I want you to know that despite the poor choices, the exhaustion and what you've seen as laziness, I have loved you through it. Read it and notice the many lessons within: === "Hello Rick! I dont know how to start this little note of mineSigh.. My email is kristenwoods81@aol.con. This post is just to give you an idea of the typical suffering and thoughts those of us with BPD have. My hope is that you will gain new insight into your loved ones condition and grow in compassion and understand for both your loved one AND yourself, as this is not an easy road. Thank you for all you honesty and compassion. I was left out of the loop as to her condition and was very depressed. Encourage self-care. As a therapist I was aware of not breaking confidentiality, yet wanting to show potential and new clients that change is possible. I have friends with mental illnesses who are therapists, and I've even had a therapist who struggled with an eating disorder. The Socialist Republic of Romania (Romanian: Republica Socialist Romnia, RSR) was a Marxist-Leninist one-party socialist state that existed officially in Romania from 1947 to 1989. . Furthermore, symptoms of BPD often manifest themselves as true emotional (and often times physical) abuse toward the children of those who suffer from the disorder. It's not a rash or a broken bone. Hi Healing from BPD-What a great letter! She is educated and successful, and to all the other people in her life, except for close family, she seems confident and put together. Maybe he'll come back to me. It's sort of comforting that she said that, because it confirms that I probably finally have the right diagnosis. I also hope that you engage in self-care to take care of YOU during this stressful time. My friend is having a sense of impending doom. It was so helpful to me. I tried to be responsible. 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